NEW YORK – Ali Fedotowsky may have found fame while seeking romance on television with the help of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, but the 32-year-old lifestyle blogger is now enjoying a much simpler life as a wife, mother to a 9-month-old daughter and spokeswoman for The American Egg Board. However, that hasnt stopped her from keeping tabs on the hit reality TV shows and shes not loving what shes seeing:
Fox News: Do you think participating in The Bachelor and The Bachelorette influenced the way you dated afterwards?
Fedotowsky: Yes, because the one thing I learned from the shows is that you need to trust your gut. When it comes to dating, if something feels a little off, then it probably means something is wrong. I stopped wasting time in relationships that werent good because I knew it was pointless. Before I would stay in relationships for years that were wrong, but somehow I was so determined to make it work. I realized after The Bachelorette that if somethings not working, move on.
Fox New: You mentioned in a previous interview that this recent season featuring Nick Viall had too much sexuality.
Fedotowsky: I think it’s unfortunate because I felt some of the girls thought they had to show their bodies and be overly sexual in order to win the affections of a man. And I just think that its a really sad thing. I was never angry at any of the girls for doing it. If anything, I wished they knew they were better than that. I wished they knew that you can be loved for being smart, for being a good person, and just for being yourself not because you have boobs or you wear size 2 jeans. Thats not what love is. Love is not having to prove your sexuality. Its so much more than that.
Fox News: Was there a specific moment that made you feel The Bachelor took things too far?
Fedotowsky: I dont think there was a scene in particular. I just think there was so much of it as time went on in the season It was a lot of taking tops off and if thats the way you won a mans attention, thats not the man youll want to be with.
Fox News: Why do you think there was so much sex in this season?
Fedotowsky: I think its because Nick was the one known for sleeping with some of the girls. We know so much about Nicks sex life, which I think is so weird. But I do think some of the girls felt they needed to play up the sex thing but look, Vanessa, the girl he ended up with, never flaunted her sexuality. If anything, she showed up with her personality, her brains. Shes the one he chose in the end. What does that tell you? Thats what wins a man. Being a strong, independent, smart woman. Not taking your clothes off.
Fox News: How did you avoid temptation?
Fedotowsky: I worked [at] Facebook in Silicon Valley. And in Silicon Valley, intelligence is way valued over physical appearance. And I think I really came to appreciate and love that. So when I went to The Bachelor, I came with that mentality of, I dont really feel comfortable in a bikini and I dont look like this girl whos a size 2, but Im smart and can hold a conversation. Thats what carried me through.
Fox News: Do you still stay in touch with Roberto Martinez?
Fedotowsky: No, I dont. I mean, I think it be kind of weird to stay in contact with your ex-fiancé, right? But I wish him all the best. Hes a great guy and whoever ends up with him will be a very lucky girl.
Fox News: How has your life changed since you became a wife and mom?
Ali Fedotowsky: Gosh, well my life has changed a ton! You cant be selfish anymore. Everything is about your child But I think there are times when its important to get a baby-sitter and make an evening thats just for you and your husband but really, everything is about [my daughter] Molly. I love being a mom. Shes still not sleeping through the night, shell wake up three to five times a night, which is hard. But overall, she has made life better and sweeter.
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Fox News: When did you realize that your husband was The One?
Fedotowsky: Right away. I mean, as soon as we started dating, everything was easy. Life is hard, but if youre with the right person, it just becomes a little easier. If the person is making life harder for you, then theyre definitely not the one for you. And that was the case with my past relationships. I found myself having heartache… With Kevin [Manno], I would never question what hes doing. He just made life easier for me.